Decisions, Decisions!
by Mike Rule

People have asked me if I believe God selected one specific person for me as a mate or if the field was wide open. In response, I am not sure the question is as important as we might first believe because it takes our eyes off Him and puts them onto our circumstances.

The motives of my heart were not exactly pure when I got married. Without a doubt I loved her; I just loved me more. To be honest I still do. But what I have discovered is that in my stupidity and self-centeredness, God gave me the exact person I needed. I truly believe that God works through our natural desire. I wasn't necessarily seeking His choice for my mate, but I did desire that He always play a part in my marriage.

God gives us some simple and obvious guidelines about not being un-equally yoked but I find we can get distracted from Him by worrying about making sure every decision we make is the right one. I find freedom in simply trusting Him while letting His peace rule my heart.

Here are two questions to consider:
1. Can God handle this kind of trust in Him?
2. Can YOU handle God handling this kind of trust in Him?

The greatest danger in decision making is in not making a decision. Ultimately if we do not make a decision we have just made one. I am not saying that we should rush into something like marriage, but many times we get so worried about making the right decision that we go on for long periods of time never making a decision. When making a decision I suggest making a list of three or four of the biggest positives and three or four of the biggest negatives in a situation. If nothing is clearly evident through the list then choose the option that sounds like the most fun. Wait and pray about it for a week before acting and let His peace rule your heart. If God doesn't clearly oppose your decision in that time, then go for it. Remember that we walk by faith and not by sight.